起点好，不如习惯好 | Chienchou Shen | TEDxGrand School Qingdao Youth

沈建州围绕“起点好不如习惯好”，指出原生家庭0—4岁的互动方式会奠定孩子终生的人格底色，父母常无意识地复制自己童年的沟通模式。本次演讲重点分享了倾听、恳谈、回应、暗示、道歉与宽恕等“人格学分”，强调父母每天的语言和回应会变成孩子未来的信念。最后提出好习惯一旦养成便难以改变，建议通过写下来、找教练、找对人、坚持21次、用好习惯置换坏习惯来培养。核心结论是：父母给不了孩子自己没有的智慧和习惯，但可以给自己成长的勇气和决心，从倾听、欣赏、道歉、陪伴等日常行动开始改变。 Chienchou Shen is a renowned family education expert, bestselling author, and corporate consultant with over 25 years of experience in family growth and 30 years in corporate advisory. He is the founder of the "Three-Set Lifetime System" and a certified psychological counselor.
As a highly sought-after speaker, he has delivered over 2,500 public speeches, led more than 500 youth training camps, and provided over 10,000 individual coaching cases. He is the author of six bestselling books, including "A Good Starting Point is Not as Good as Good Habits" and "It's All Parents' Fault." He has also served as the CEO of multinational companies and is a film producer.
Currently serving as the Chief Special Guest Mentor at iJIA Family Growth Academy, his core philosophy is: Respect differences, live out your strengths, and recognize that everyone is unique. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx